Try This Super Powerful Listening Tool To Transform Highly Emotional Conversation

I would call it an advanced listening skills technique as I see very few people understand the importance of this and, more importantly, hardly few use it consciously. Also, this is super powerful if used in the right way at the right time.

It becomes doubly important for you to know and use it if you are a coach, trainer, someone in the role of grievance handling or a leader at any level.

If you have dealing with people and have been working for a while you ought to know this otherwise you will lose the opportunities of connecting with people at deeper layer and hence fail to form real bonds with people in some critical conversations.

Listen and let me know how did you like it and also do try it.

How To Get Rid Of Self-Sabotage Using 1 Question?

2 + 1 Benefits of watching this video

  1. More understanding of ‘why’ you operate the way you operate in this world
  2. With passage of time, you will discover ‘how’ can you operate better for success and fulfillment in this world
  3. As you practice asking this question more and more you will find and inside-out way of operating in this world which will mean that the new behaviors that you will discover will stay with you for longer and you will find it easier to follow-through on your plans, goals and commitments.

How To Use Problems To Boost Self-Growth?

  1. Pick a problem. (Any kind of problem – business related, personal etc.)
  2. Ask – how is this problem serving me? (Write as many points as you can think of and then pick 1 or 2 that connects with you)
  3. How can this problem serve me?
  4. Most importantly, what is this problem telling me about me?

This is an exercise in ownership and till you don’t own it, you can’t help yourself. Sometimes it may not make sense but one thing is certain every time these questions can help you find those tiny or big areas where you can make some improvements.

If you can swallow this bitter pill and become single-minded about making those changes in the areas identified then you will make this life a long and fulfilling journey. But if you can’t then one day you will find yourself complaining about everything in life.

The journey of personal development starts only and only with ‘Ownership’, every other step is a false start.

The Secret To Creating Transformational & Long-lasting Shifts In Your Clients

When you are working with your clients in coaching sessions you have your task cut out. The priorities are pretty clear and they are:

1. Help the client see their inner world with a fresh perspective and more clarity?

2. How can I create a quick change because your client is paying you for the time that you spend with them?

3. How can I create a long-lasting change so that my client will not need any support on this issue again and can become self-reliant in handling situations?

How To Build Rapport & Trust With Your Client?

This works from below the level of your awareness but this is what decides how others perceive you in any relationship with people you coach or talk to.

We talk least about it when we train people on how to build rapport, how to persuade, influence or how to build trust in short-term or long-term relationship but it’s really good to know.

So, next time when you go for a coaching conversation or you are speaking to an audience just ask your and check how sincere are you about this conversation and you will slowly get your conversations and your relationships to a whole new level.

If You Need Constant Motivation Read This

I believe that what separates the also-rans from the uber-successful people is that the also-rans need external motivation but for uber-successful people their goal is their biggest motivation and they do not need anything else to motivate them.

Another way of looking at it, and I think we should really pay attention to this, is make your biggest motivation as your goal.

So, when you set your next goal, look at what really keeps you up and take that and make it your life goal or your next big mission and you will never need any other motivation.

Whose Success Are You After?


If you don’t sit down and define success then whose goals are you following, whose dreams are you chasing; certainly not yours.

And success cannot be defined in one sitting. You have to sit frequently and relook and redefine your definition of success. It constantly gets fine-tuned so much that you will be surprised.

But don’t be, our mind has layers and we seldom connect with the deeper layers. Constant sittings will take you closer to your success but probably never there. Otherwise what’s the fun of living.

You are dealing with a brain with over 100 billion neural cells. It’s a complex machine and you can’t be careless about learning. You have to work to get the results that will make you happy.

But it’s about you so who else will work.

Go ahead!

Enjoy meetings with your success and connect deeper with it in every meeting.

Best wishes 🙂

5 Books That Can Transform Your Life

Think and Grow Rich

A very old book the idea of which was born in the mind of legendary and super rich businessman Andrew Carnegie. So, Andrew Carnegie wanted to share the formula of success with the world. He hired Napoleon Hill and proposed to him that he will get him the opportunity to interview the richest and the most successful people in the world but at the end of it he wanted Napoleon Hill to come up with a formula of success. Napoleon Hill finally came up with this masterpiece which is responsible for creating innumerable millionaires. It’s an old book but if you are a fan of personal development you will not be able to let go of this once you start it. What I personally like about this book is that it appeals to both the left brain and the right brain i.e. the logical side as well as the creative side of our brain. Extremely powerful book. If you haven’t read it yet. You should postpone reading the rest of the post and buy it first instead.

Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude

Another great masterpiece written by Clement Stone who was another uber-successful businessman of the same time as Andrew Carnegie. This book like Think and Grow Rich is inspirational and very powerful. Filled with stories of how real life people achieved massive success and overcame humongous challenges using the techniques mentioned in the book. Like almost all the books I have mentioned here, you can keep going back to this book again and again and still keep learning something new every time. So a must keep for your personal library.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Another book of success formulae, this book was written in 80s and remained number 1 for about 25 years. Dr. Stephen Covey has captured all the success habits of super successful people in the 7 Habits. Like Think and Grow Rich, this book was also written after interviewing the most successful people of the time. It is one of the most comprehensive books with great details that will not only impress you but also answer any questions that may arise in your minds about how to follow the suggestions in the book. To me it appeared as if this book is an amalgamation of Eastern and Western style of thinking.

Awaken the Giant Within

Written by the living legend Tony (Anthony) Robbins, the ‘why’ guy; this book is all about strategies. The writing style is a mix of solid science and yet easy to read and get motivated to continue. Most importantly, this book, like other books that I have mentioned above is written by a man who has been there and done it. Tony Robbins credited with producing massive and quick changes in the lives of people from businessmen to those facing massive psychological challenges, has put some of the most powerful strategies that he uses to produce the quick and powerful transformation in the lives of his clients. Credited with working with Olympic athletes, Navy Seals as well as Presidents of nations, Tony Robbins strategies can help you produce magic. This book should be lying in table next to your bed so that you can read it whenever you have doubts.

Tools of Titans

The newest of all the books that I will recommend to you. It is a powerhouse of strategies to massively transform any area of your life. Again this book like Awaken the Giant Within is a book of strategies. Written by Tim Ferris, this book has the details of Tim’s interactions with the best of the best of the world today. Basically, he has shared the uniquely powerful ideas and tricks and tactics that work for all these uber-achievers. To be honest, I am still reading this but I am sure I don’t have to wait to finish it to recommend it to you. By far one of the most powerful book in today’s world that can help you transform all areas of your life. All you have to do is read and follow the instructions.

That’s all folks. If you have any other suggestions, please leave in comments below. Do let me know what you felt after reading one or more of these books.

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What Brings Misery To Our Lives & Questions To Help Us Transcend It

It may sound simple but it is not easy; it may be difficult but it is not complicated.

But at the same time, they always work.

So, a few questions that I am trying to address here.

What is the cause of misery in our lives?

Is there something that we can do to transcend this misery instantly?

Can some questions help us transcend the misery and push us towards leading a whole and fulfilling life?

Watch this video